Figures that my "biggest hit" would have nothing to do with me. It's a good lesson, maybe. I saw this posted by someone else without alt text. I wanted to boost so I just snagged it and added the description myself.
I believe that a great deal of emotional regulation and decision making happens when quiet. I believe that the lack of quiet is a cause of how bad things are. We are valuing the shallowest thinking only. And it shows.
As an extravert I can second that. From the other side of the spectrum I often feel like I take to much space when I'm together with introverts, and I try to adapt accordingly. Finding emotional regulation is quite hard for me, as is thinking silently. What I try to cultivate is open and honest communication, as a basis to coexist, to be or work together. I find it so hard to build bridges from both sides of the spectrum.
> ...a great deal of emotional regulation and decision making happens when quiet
this resonated. i've been thinking for years that if people had better emotional regulation we'd be a lot better off - economically and socially. that our leaders are kids in a sandbox fighting over toys. that so many of us never learned how to manage our own emotions. so this ... this resonated.
@fyrfli from observing my own life, when I'm unwell I cannot bear silence. I'm carrying my phone that's playing a video as I get up from my bed and walk to the bathroom. I'm sleeping with movies playing. I'm wearing headphones in elevators. That's what I do when my physical or mental pain is high. I'm avoiding the uncontrolled, negative thoughts that i would have in silence. I choose noise as a defense because my thoughts when I'm suffering are self destructive, maybe violent. 1/
@fyrfli 2/ I don't criticize those who choose noise. Their reasons may differ from mine but I have been there. I still do it situationally. If I know I will be somewhere unpleasant I choose to play my own program over noise canceling headphones. I devote consideration to my sensory comfort as much as possible. I remind myself that many things I hate in others are their self care. A big, loud truck might be a straight man's gender affirming care, for instance! I don't like it but...
@fyrfli 3/ folks make lots of choices I don't like. Fighting every one of them every time I encounter them is not sustainable for my own positive energy. I see extroverts similarly. Our society fills silence with noise. I know from my own life that I do the same when I'm in pain and don't want to think about it. ... I also know that soothing distractions are not a cure. They're a palliative. Numbing drugs can be damn useful if used as tools to make recuperation bearable. If drugs are
@fyrfli 4/4 If & when drugs are used exclusively for relief with no other treatment then it's my experience that higher & higher doses of the drugs are required to keep getting baseline relief. More distraction, more noise, less thinking. The ability to enjoy silence again is the best thing that's happened to me in recent years. I credit turning off the spigot of commercial media that was filling my brain nonstop. I still read & listen to music a lot, at my own pace & ad free.
This is a more thorough review of Shy Radicals than I could have written, and shows the book has actually had an impact in the UK.
https://www.middleeasteye.net/discover/shy-radicals-hamja-ahsan-world-our-corner
somewhere, sometime ago I saw extrovert described as 'emotionally incontinent' and I think that's about right just leaking my moods all around the place
@semiotic_pirate @corbden I shared this photo on insta a few days ago. That (horrible) platform is where I know people locally. I was somewhat hoping that someone would respond and come over!
This so much. Not just because it would be funny - the prevalence of articles like these (including the exact wording) is probably the reason I've felt for years like I "need to be more social" and that there's "something wrong with me" that I need to fix. I only realized quite recently that's not the case.
Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Figures that my "biggest hit" would have nothing to do with me. It's a good lesson, maybe. I saw this posted by someone else without alt text. I wanted to boost so I just snagged it and added the description myself.
I believe that a great deal of emotional regulation and decision making happens when quiet. I believe that the lack of quiet is a cause of how bad things are. We are valuing the shallowest thinking only. And it shows.
※
My slow projects
dotart.blog/rmiddleton/project…
Projects & Aspirations
RMiddletonKarsten
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •.:fyrfli:.
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Sensitive content
> ...a great deal of emotional regulation and decision making happens when quiet
this resonated. i've been thinking for years that if people had better emotional regulation we'd be a lot better off - economically and socially. that our leaders are kids in a sandbox fighting over toys. that so many of us never learned how to manage our own emotions. so this ... this resonated.
Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art
in reply to .:fyrfli:. • • •1/
Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •@fyrfli 4/4 If & when drugs are used exclusively for relief with no other treatment then it's my experience that higher & higher doses of the drugs are required to keep getting baseline relief. More distraction, more noise, less thinking. The ability to enjoy silence again is the best thing that's happened to me in recent years. I credit turning off the spigot of commercial media that was filling my brain nonstop. I still read & listen to music a lot, at my own pace & ad free.
Peace
Alex Psmith
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •James Britt
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Lizzie
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Bob Tregilus :tux:📷:copyleft:
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Draken BlackKnight
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •FoolishOwl
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •FoolishOwl (@foolishowl@social.coop)
social.coopSpiritech
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Alerta! Alerta!
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Chris
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •steeznson
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Priscilla Haring-Kuipers
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •just leaking my moods all around the place
Tatjna
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •fraggle
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Fjord In Progress
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art
in reply to Fjord In Progress • • •nightoo
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Stuart Jones
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Isocat
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Yeah.
theoatmeal.com/comics/battery_…
Battery drain - The Oatmeal
The OatmealDom Arbuthnott
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •Lovely
in reply to Rob 🏳️🌈 RMiddleton.Art • • •